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 Anxiety and Bach Flower Remedies– 

Many Clients ask me about how Bach Flower remedies can be  helpful  in reducing their anxiety symptoms and help them in maximizing strength and vitality to face tough, challenging situations in their life.

First, Let’s have a look at what is normal, day to day Anxiety and Anxiety disorder-  

Anxiety is an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure.

People with anxiety disorders usually have recurring intrusive thoughts or concerns. They may avoid certain situations out of worry. They may also have physical symptoms such as sweating, trembling, dizziness or a rapid heartbeat.

–Adapted from the Encyclopedia of Psychology.

As we can see, anxiety is an emotion, and it comes with a mixture or combination of other unhealthy emotions and thoughts, which affects a person’s rational, reality-based thinking ability. If a person is suffering from an Anxiety disorder, he/she is unable to see things in perspective( as they Originally are).

Neuropsychology says- Anxiety or  anxious feeling or nervousness is one of the internal warning systems that alert us to danger or other threats and prepares our bodies to fight back or get out of a dangerous situation. (Scientists call this the ‘fight, flight, or freeze’ response.)

A manageable amount of anxiety ( healthy anxiety) from time to time can be helpful. For example, it can motivate the person to prepare for an interview or finish a task at work. Even happy events like moving to a new home or celebrating an important milestone can bring up anxiety—all of this is just part of being human.

Anxiety becomes a problem when it is overwhelming or unmanageable and it comes up unexpectedly. Anxiety disorders are mental illnesses that have a big impact on your life. Anxiety disorders need to be diagnosed by authorized experts in the mental health field ( psychiatrist) based on given criteria in DSM-V OR ICD-10. The person with severe anxiety symptoms might be prescribed with medication for severe symptoms of anxiety and other associated issues, such as – depression, heavy breathing, sleeplessness etc.

 Bach Flower Remedies and Anxiety

Now here comes Bach Flower therapies in this scenario, to provide complete support, to the person with anxiety to handle his/her emotional imbalances more balanced way and with a healthier approach. The beauty of Bach flowers is their simplicity and these remedies are safe to take with any other medical treatment. These remedies offer gentle means of relieving negative attitudes and because they are prepared from flowers and trees, none of which are poisonous, they provide a harmless, non-habit forming system of healing. These remedies treat the personality and emotional upset such as impatience, fear, anxiety, worry, sadness etc. Dr. Bach believed that such negative states were ultimately responsible for the disease, and so treatment of the underlying cause is vital.

**Process of deciding Accurate and Effective Bach Flower Remedies combination for anxiety and anxiety disorders – 

There are 38 Bach Flower Remedies, found by Dr. Edward Bach and these 38 remedies can make thousands of various combinations for emotional imbalances, to provide a complete system for emotional well being of the person.  Primary Goal of taking these remedies is to find equilibrium in emotions, personality and psyche  of human beings of all age groups and to provide positive energy to handle current situations with empowered SELF. As Dr. Bach mentioned, we can mix up to 7 remedies at one time to make a combination.

When we need to treat anxiety and associated symptoms of a person with these remedies, the first and foremost important step is to  –

1.collecting a very detailed case-history of the client’s  past life experiences, present circumstances, emotional presentations, life traumas, losses, any prolonged physical illness, family history etc. 

This detailed case-history will provide us an idea of the client’s-

a.)personality traits Or Constitution Or Type and structure of person’s thought-emotion-behavior  triad

b.) his thought process to deal with challenging situations in his/her life,  c.)current issues and associated emotional imbalances

d.) severity-intensity-frequency of anxiety related and associated symptoms

e.)duration of present problem/s and its impact on a person’s overall life, including work, relations, routine etc.

2.Second step is selecting or short-listing a mixture of  remedies for current most bothersome emotional imbalances of the client ( using- “Here and Now” theory).– Dr. Bach suggested the most wonderful structure to decide remedies , that is “Peeling The Onion”. An onion has multiple layers of skin, and we have to peel one layer at a time to find inside another layer sitting close to each other, exactly the same way emotional problems build up over time, layer by layer, until the original emotional cause can be quite hidden. It can be very uncomfortable, and sometimes even dangerous to try to cut straight to the hidden heart of things, particularly in anxiety clients where they are not ready to face issues, or afraid of facing issues that might lie buried deep in their minds.We select remedies, very carefully for current or present most bothersome issue, starting from the outside of the layer of client’s mind. Each time while making a combination or mixture of remedies we have to add a constitution or type remedy of clients personality, because each one’s personality defines how a person will respond to a particular situation.  Very Important aspect to keep in mind when we are making a combination, though we have collected detailed case- history to give us a clear picture of the person’s  personality and emotional structure, we will start remedies for current prominent, troublesome symptoms, those are on the surface. The remedies are gentler because they approach the problem layer by layer, starting from the outside. By the time the center is reached the person taking them is ready to face it and deal with it calmly.

3. Duration -Most Important question always been asked to Bach Flower practitioners and that is, “How long do we have to take remedies?” – If an anxiety issue persists from longer duration, Or if it is diagnosed as an Anxiety disorder( and panic attacks) then until we can see that all layers of negative, unhealthy emotions and its associated expressions are cleansed to provide some positivity, empowerment and strength to tackle anxiety related issues , we need to continue taking remedies. Initially remedies should be given for 3 to 4 weeks for the most outside layer of emotional issue When that remedy mixture bottle is about to finish, and you are able to see some changes, it is the time to reconsider remedy choices as new emotions come on surface. Intensity and Duration of client’s suffering should be taken in account while deciding the duration of taking remedies. 

 

Last but not least  – Always take advice from experienced Bach flower remedy practitioners before starting  these remedies for the very first time, especially when you are unable to decide a combination on your own.  

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Mrs. Anagha P. Atgur

Co-founder of VitaMind family mental wellness center,

Bach Flower remedy registered practitioner ( London)

Masters in Counselling Psychology.

 “ VitaMind’s commitment to family mental wellness” 

As we all know, Mental health is equally important as physical health. We have started our journey of VitaMind on the basis of this vision – ‘Family’s complete mental well being’. I want my respected client’s to know about how we work at VitaMind together-

-to understand their emotional needs,

-to gain more knowledge about their personality , their behavior patterns, their strengths , weaknesses.

-to restructure their thought processes to enhance their skills.

-to achieve family’s peace, happiness, sustainable relationships, progressive thinking, growth mindsets, and harmony .

In this complete process of counseling, we will be always there with you.

We offer many wonderful programs and services that are beneficial to different age groups. Just take glance at it and what you can expect from each one-

  1. Psychological Counselling– This type of counselling is a complete scientific approach, where counselling relationship is critical to the success of counselling. There are various different skills, tools and techniques used in counselling, which helps clients in achieving positive mental health, resolves emotional, psychological, relationship issues, improve personal effectiveness, empower and enhance skills set etc.Inculcating self-help skills and progressive mindset, giving clarity OR mirroring of reality can be  some of the basic goals of counselling process. Depending on the severity of the issue or problem area,  number of sessions will be decided. Sometimes , if required along with Individual sessions with the client for his/her issues,  family counselling, couple counselling or group counselling process can be involved to increase efficiency of counselling and it is seen that involving family proves very beneficial most of the times, because in that process family’s understanding, awareness can be initiated for the client’s issue so that they all can help the client to empower his/ her skills to work with issue with positivity. This support is very much required.
  2. Psychotherapy – As American Psychiatric Association stated- “Psychotherapy, or talk therapy, is a way to help people with a broad variety of mental illnesses and emotional difficulties. Psychotherapy can help eliminate or control troubling symptoms so a person can function better and can increase well-being and healing.” There are many different  forms of psychotherapies and their various tools and  applications. Role of a psychotherapist is to choose appropriate psychotherapy for a client’s issue, which will help him the best. Specialty of our center is, we use eclectic approach here, that means, We design the most suitable therapeutic approach for a client’s issue in each session, which will provide him/her excellent self-help skill set, better options to tackle issues and empowerment to handle weaknesses. Here follow-up of the previous session and revision of self-help tasks given in each session will be done to check how much those tasks and thinking approaches are helping the client.

We use various psycho-therapeutic approaches as per need of client such as – Cognitive Behavior Therapy ( Aron Beck), Client centered Approach ( Carl Rogers), Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy( Albert Ellis), Behavior therapy ( various modules and techniques developed by many experts, but mostly known- B.F. Skinner), Play therapy for children up to age 12 years( Virginia Axline) etc. Each therapy approach has its speciality , benefits and unique objectives with specially designed scientific tools, which in psychotherapy sessions we maximize for clients’ well being achievement.

( our speciality is we offer phone or online sessions too and these are proving very helpful, beneficial and efficient in this lockdown, pandemic situation and especially it is helping to maintain social distancing, yet not missing the recovery process.)

  1. Bach Flower Remedies

I am a Bach center registered practitioner( London- bachcentre.com) and practising these remedies from Year 2000. These remedies are proven treatment for emotional skill enhancement and complete emotional well being without any side effect. These are non habit forming so they do not create dependency. There are 38 remedies in the Bach remedy system. All of them were discovered in the 1920s and 1930s by Dr Edward Bach, a well-known bacteriologist, physician, and pathologist.

Each remedy is associated with a basic human emotion.Like Dr. Bach believed that healing on an emotional level has knock-on effects on other levels. A healthy emotional life and a balanced personality will allow your body to find its own natural state of health.

These remedies work very well in combination with counselling and psychotherapy processes, it doubles the effect of therapy and reduces the duration of sessions, as these remedies work on emotional imbalances very well simultaneously , through counselling and psychotherapy we work on thoughts and behaviour patterns.Client’s willingness to bring positive and progressive change in his/her life,makes this process wholesome and complete.

4. Other programs – Apart from above services, we arrange many workshops, and seminars (and in current situation – webinars and  online courses too) in our center. Such as- Youth Leadership Program ( YLP),  parenting workshops for inculcating awareness and techniques of healthy -happy parenting, self- awareness workshops, especially for middle age ladies, skills enhancement programs for children and youths etc.

5.Upcoming courses- we are in process to launch brand new certificate courses in child development and counselling, personality development and leadership (for adults), communication skill enhancement (for youth and adults.), Interview skills ( for fresh grads).

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We are committed to mental wellness and complete well being of our clients. We maintain the highest standards and ethics of confidentiality in our center.

Thank you,

Anagha P. Atgur , Co-Founder of VitaMind Family Mental Wellness Center

Psychological Counselor, Psychotherapist, Bach Flower Remedy Registered Practitioner, London.

 

 

Role of play in development of a child

A.) Introduction-

Play is very important factor in every child’s life; playing is a natural tendency of every child. Then even if that child is construction worker’s child and playing in a mud or even if the child is from Builder’s house, playing in his or her own room with many imported toys, need of play is the same in both.

A new born baby spends his or her most of the time in sleeping, but later especially from 5th months of life babies’ start responding others. This is the time when babies take enjoyment in small things. These small things only become play for these children. At every step in child development types of play, and responses to others keeps changing. Playing becomes vital factor in child’s daily routine in preschool years. Playing gives very enjoyable and cherishing experience. Playing doesn’t have any end especially at this age and children just play to create fun and enjoyment. Play is very effective medium in teaching also. Now we all know that play way method turns out very effective and interesting method in teaching new concepts to children, this is not only for young children but for elder children too.

B.)What is play?-

Play is considered so important by child development experts that huge books of research studies have been published about it. “Any activity which gives pure enjoyment can be called as Play.” For example – kids spread toys all over the room and again keep in a basket. This action they are doing not as a work but they feel enjoyment in the activity so it can also be called as a play. Sometimes they throw toys in a basket sometimes they bang toys on each other; they repeatedly do this activity since it is play for them. Here Playing is not a pressure on children that is why play is self-motivated action.

C.) Parts of play

We can divide play in two parts-
1. Active play-In this type of play, child him or herself actively play something. Here action for play is done by a child For example A. Running, Jumping. B. colouring, clay modelling. C. Ball throwing and catching.
2. Passive Play-In this type of play child does not participate in any play physically, but whenever he watches other’s playing he enjoys it. For example- A. watching other children playing. B. watching games on Television or mobile Phones or laptops. C. reading about different games or toys or playthings in newspapers and magazines.

D.)Difference between work and play-

When child actively participate and play something, action happens, but that is not a work, because work and play are two very different things-
1. For play there is no end, but for work there is certain end.
2. Play activities entertain children, but in work fulfilling goal is main thing.
3. Play always happens willingly, but work can be done willingly or unwillingly, this means some work can be done happily by people but some work can be done under pressure.
4. Sometimes play can turn into work. For example- suppose a person is playing as a part of his work and trying to fulfill some goals through it. Then here work changes in to play.
5. Fun play does not have specific rules or laws. But work has to pass through certain rules. When there are specific rules for play, then objective behind play changes from entertain to goal satisfactory action.
So now we can see that how work and play is different and that is also for person to person. Every person’s perspective matters in it. If parents want their child to clean his or her room then they can change this work into play activity. Like, you keep all red toys in one basket, and yellow in another.

E.) Importance/values of play-

When we talk about child development, we need to focus on overall development, which covers all aspects of child development. Play takes very important place in this developmental process. Let’s see Values or Importance of play in this process-
1. Physical and motor value- Care taker should make sure that child will get ample opportunities which gives chance to use physical and motor skills like walking, running, climbing, jumping, balancing etc. Adults should provide age appropriate equipment for such activities on daily basis to child. This will surely help child to grow as a strong adult, since these activities will support in physical growth and development. Along with this, children should get exposure to indoor activities, which support fine motor skills, like cutting with scissors, drawing, beading, using thread and needle, colouring, playing with blocks etc. these all are pre-writing or readiness activities and all are very important for strength of fine motor skills and eye hand coordination and plays important role for preparing child for formal reading and writing skills.
2. Psychological and educational value– psychological development includes thinking capacity, imagination, memory, plus language development. To promote and encourage all these skills Play is very important. There are variety of activities which supports psychological and educational development in children. To promote language development songs, rhymes, stories, puzzles, word riddles, these activities helps a lot, since these activities mainly uses language. That is why adults can use language games, grammar games, picture talk to encourage child. Along with this, readiness mental activities,( like use of all 5 senses, colour knowledge, join the pieces and complete the picture puzzle ) also helps in developing attention span and concentration.
3. Therapeutic value- when children play different types of activities or games, they use their excess energy, plus if children have any behavioural problems , play help to resolve it, since many emotions get outlet through variety of play. Play helps in reducing aggression in children. For example when children play in doll’s corner, they talk to dolls ,sometimes beat them, sometimes scold them, this way they expresses their different emotions in acceptable way, and they does not have to suppress feelings. Suppressed feelings can come out improper way, like biting, hurting others or self. Play helps children to bring out all these feelings in proper way. It is called Catharsis (socially acceptable way or through play, expressing, or getting outlet to feelings and getting encouragement to physical work strength is called Catharsis)
4. Emotional value- As we mentioned above, play gives ample opportunity for emotional outlet, thus play helps in emotional development, since developing emotions means expressing it in socially acceptable way. Through play child learns to express in more mature way, even those feelings are negative like –jealousy, anger, fear etc. Rather children learn many good feelings through play like –love, acceptance, care etc. (example of play activities for emotional development are- role play, doll house play, storytelling etc.)
5. Social value– Play is very important medium in social development, because it gives chance to know each other, cooperation, sharing, plus through play children can learn leadership skills. Play teaches children to learn socially acceptable behaviour, so that they can enter in group and make their space in group. Two to three year old children shows very self- centric view, they cannot understand others side but as they grow they socialize more and understand that each one has their own views. Play helps in learning this view in day cares, preschools, on playgrounds etc.
6. Moral value– there are certain rules and regulations for games and play activities, if child learns to follow it, then only he or she will get social acceptance. Each social group has their own culture and rules. To learn this thing, play is wonderful medium. Child needs to learn what is right and wrong, what is good and bad, what is acceptable and unacceptable , all these values, conscience , children can start learning through different play activities from childhood till they grow in responsible adult. (Examples of play activities to teach moral values- role plays, dramatization, acting etc.)

F.) Different stages of play-

As child grows, he/she passes through different stages, same apples to Play too. There are different stages in play, these are as follows-
Stage 1- child is in audience role- when child is very young like 6 months, 8 months up to 1 year he /she just observes others playing, at that time child moves hands , legs and responds to others’ actions. But very few times child involves physically in the play activity, at this time baby forces adults to repeat same actions. Here baby uses its observation, so we can say this stage is observer stage for child.
Stage 2- child plays alone- when child enters in 1 and half to two years, he or she plays alone. Clapping or repeatedly saying one word, these are things they do. The play activities they decide themselves and give name to objects and they like to play repeatedly with their favourite objects. They try to imitate others. Games they like to play at this stage are Peek-a-boo, hiding, or with balls.
Stage 3– child plays parallel play- at this stage(2 to 3 years), children observes others playing and he or she will play with similar way, in this stage they observe plus imitate others and play alone. For example – one boy is playing with toy car in one room, another boy see him playing and will take another car and play with it , they might not talk to each other , but still play same activity. That is why this stage is called parallel play.
Stage 4- child relates and play-here children relate things to its origin and play, here fantasy enters in their play. Here too they imitate a lot. Plus use their dramatization skills for example – girls plays mothers role and boy plays fathers role in their dramatization.
Stage 5- child plays cooperative play- children starts playing in group at around 4 to 5 years onwards. Somebody becomes leader, and others follow him or her. Here they learn to apply all valuable social, emotional skills while playing, like cooperation, sharing, understanding others etc.
While child is on each above described developmental stage, parents and care takers role is very important to keep good examples in front of them. If good support, guidance, and ideals are in front of them, they will grow in to socially acceptable adults. We will see later in detail about adult’s role in child’s play.

G.) Different types of play

There are many different types of play and each has some speciality. These all types are totally depends and changes according to child’s age, psychological and physical development.
1. Free play or sensorimotor play-Here child plays as per his wish, and he/she shows active participation. Child plays only when he wishes to play and plays until he gets fun and enjoyment from that activity. Ones he feels bore he stops playing it. Child receives encouragement from his surrounding and from new play toys. This kind of play starts from as early as 4 to 5 months of age up to 2 years. Here children handle many toys and explore it by throwing, banging, breaking etc. they try to learn from it, main advantage of it is developmental exposure to 5 senses. Here they put toys n their mouth, smells it, listen the sound through banging… Etc.
Advantages of free play- 1. Children get chance to handle different types of objects. 2. They learn from each object and that is also by self learning method. 3. Children get exposure for sensory motor skills and observation skills. 4. Children learns that how to entertain themselves.
2. Dramatic play-It is also called ‘Make Believe Play’. Or children make incidents themselves (like imitating father and going to office in play) and play accordingly. Here they talk with their toys Or create incidents themselves and play. There are two types of dramatic play but in both types we can see children’s active participation-
1. Imitation- here children play day to day experiences in their life. They use their toys, dolls, soft toys and they take lead role and play. For example- 1 and half -2 years kid becomes Doctor that time he uses his dolls and soft toys as his patients.
2. Creative dramatization-here children create incidents or stories for play from their previous experiences and dramatize it. In this type children dramatize incidents with their friends instead of toys. For example – when 4 -5 years old child plays Doctor- Doctor, their friends becomes patients not toys.
As child’s intellectual development increases they prefer second type of dramatic play where they get more exposure in imagining and creating new stories for play. Dramatic play starts at around two years of child’s development. First they imitate to elder sibling or parent. Let’s see one example- two year old girl uses her toy tray and cups to serve tea to elder at home, here she is imitating her mother. Later as her intellectual development happens as per age, her dramatization becomes more detail and complex. For example first she is just carrying her doll with her, later she will give routine to her doll liking feeding her milk, bathing etc.
Advantages of dramatic play-1. This type of play gives boost in social and language development plus gives outlet to emotions. 2. Children learn new language skills 3. Give encouragement to observation.
3. Constructive play– here children use some objects to create something. They enjoy making new things. Whatever objects they get or they find around they uses it for their creation. Here also observation and imitation of adults are two important keys initially. 4 -5 years old children use seeds stones, flowers or blocks to make any shape without deciding about it. But little elder children (5 to 7 years) decide shapes first and then make it. Here they use their intellectual skills. That is why care taker should provide different objects like sand, beads, wooden blocks, seeds, feathers, leaves, cloth pieces etc to children to encourage their constructive skills.
Advantages of constructive play- 1. It encourages mental skills. 2. It encourages creativity. 3. It helps n development in fine motor skills.
4. Creative play– this play starts in preschool age. Children create something new from provided material like sand, clay, beads, scissors, paper etc. For example- Children make house with sand, cuts paper n different shapes with scissors, they shows interest in drawing and colouring pictures, especially in preschool age starting. And at the end of preschool age more kid scribbles on paper and stops there, three year old kid gives names to that picture, and four year old kid describes his or her picture, since he expects acceptance and appreciation from adults for his creation. And if we suggest anything to 6 years old kid he/she next time uses that instructions, they try to make their work perfect and try to maintain the quality of creation.
Here are few important types of creative play
1. drawing- this is the best medium to express feeling of child. Very small children mostly draw symbolic pictures, not the exact one , just similar to their imagination.
2. Colouring or painting- kids at first, holds brush or crayon in palms or fist but later with development of fine motor of fingers they learn to hold it in fingers. While using crayons first children use single colour to scribble, but then they try to use different colours. They show creativity in it.
3. clay or sand play- initially children pat, roll clay, later they starts making different shapes and at around 5 to 6 years they make their own new objects from clay.
4. collage- this is wonderful activity to express and develop creativity. We can provide different seeds, leaves, cut-outs, flowers. Children can create their own designs.
Advantages of creative play- 1. Encourages creativity in children. 2. Helps in intellectual development. 3. Promotes fine motor skills development. 4. Develops eye-hand coordination in children.

H.)Education using play way method-

We all know that from very beginning our education system believe on formal, classroom education. But many researchers found out how much children truly gain from this kind of education system. Especially age and maturity level of preschool children is not suitable for formal classroom education and forceful writing activities. Instead we need to develop liking for education in them. Practical, first-hand experiences always help children learn better, faster and very enjoyable way. Play is the key for this kind of method. For example- when child plays with plastic, colourful blocks, he/she gets knowledge about colour, shapes, texture etc, and that is also with child’s active participation.
Play way method keeps child in center, and always think about child’s needs, likings, and abilities. Play is natural thing for children, as they express their emotions through it, plus their awareness for surrounding world boost education, which is why it covers all aspects of development. Children can develop observation, experimenting, problem-solving and creativity through play plus it helps them in development of physical, language, and social aspects. If we use play way method, children enjoys learning plus they look forward to coming to school, develops their gross and fine motor skills, which helps them in formal education, means their developed motor skills help them to learn (read, write, understand) in speed, help them in holding pencil, pen properly while writing, help them in learning difference between letter and pronunciation. Ultimately it helps in their personality development. If we force children to read and write in early age when they are not ready for it, it will affect their attitude toward education plus they can get hand, fingers, headaches, fatigued eyes, back ache etc. preschool age is readiness time, so we can prepare children through variety of play in this time.
When we use play for education – 1. Give real, practical, concrete experiences first and then teach abstract concepts 2. First show known concepts and then take slowly to unknown ones. 3. First teach easy things and then slowly take to difficult things.
For this- first hand experiences, variety of toys, books, stories, pictures, puppets etc. helps a lot. Some activity suggestions for this- 1. Informal conversations/ discussions. 2. Making and telling stories. 3. Dramatization of songs, stories or puppet shows. 4. Singing rhymes 5. Action songs. 6. Free play-beading, building blocks. 7. Outdoor activities. 8. Sand or water play or group activities. 9. Intellectual and language games. 10. Field trips or educational tours like nature walk etc.
I.)Specialties of Play-
Following are specialties of play-
1. Children learn play with imitation- children learn to play different methods or games from elder siblings, peer group.
2. Every child follows certain direction in play- As child’s attention span increases, and peer group friends increases, maturity increases child’s play pattern changes according to it.
3. Play becomes social as per child’s age- at first child plays self-centered games, and that is why play is not socialize, but growing age children prefer playing with others.
4. As child grows, his friend choice become fix in Play-small children doesn’t show preferences for playmates, but as per age ( especially after 5 years) they select their friends and show preferences for these playmates only.
5. As per age, Play shows gender differences- young children play all type of toys, for example – boys also play in doll house and cooking, but as they grow their game selection shows gender effect.
6. Play always moves from informal to formal – initially children like free play, but later they like constructive play.
7. As per age growth, Active play lessens- As child grow he prefers inactive games (passive play) like reading, watching TV, watching others playing, playing cards and carom board.

J.) How to recognize child’s personality through play-

This sounds funny but yes we can able to understand children more by just observing their playing style. Even if all children play similar toys their playing style explains us their personality. Here are the 4 prominent styles. We can see combination of these styles in each child, some styles can be observed more prominently while others might be less –
1. Maintaining style child- these children really enjoys being alone to do his or her own thing. They show mastery at entertaining themselves and enjoy activities like stamp collecting, crossword puzzles, and card games. They prefer activities that are quieter and less active. An excess of toys and games isn’t going to make them that happy. They need fewer, but more complicated, intricate toys to open their mind and their understanding of the world. When playing with other children, they can appear a bit controlling if things aren’t done according to the rules.
2. The harmonizer style- these children have strong interpersonal skills and get along well with others. Playtime is especially fun time for them. It means time to move freely, dance, talk, and connect with other kids. They are certainly not interested in solo hobbies or quiet time alone. They love being busy. They really like to have all their favourite toys around them at all times. Talking is very important to them. Toys that work for them could be stuffed animals, dolls, board games etc.
3. The innovator style- these children like to draw and play games with strong visual and spatial aspects. They like puzzles and mazes. They like running around outside, playing hide-and –seek etc. some enjoys playing chess. They will love reading books. They have incredible ability to absorb information and understanding on an intuitive level. Because they are charismatic and like to have a good time, they attract friends. But they like to play practical jokes, have mega-active fun, and don’t want to be around who is dull and bosses them.
4. The Prioritizer style- They need physical exercise because it is one of the few ways they actually release their stress and relax. They enjoy large muscle activities like running races, playing tag, and hide and seek because they require skill, stamina, and desire to win. They also enjoy intellectual games. These children aren’t typical playmates, since they are intensely competitive.

K.) How to select toys and games for children-

Care taker should ask these questions before selecting appropriate play material for child-1. Are there toys that the child can manipulate to improve eye-hand coordination, stacking or nesting objects, building toys, blocks, toys with movable parts, creative materials that can be used in a variety of ways?
2. Are playthings interesting without overwhelming the child with detail?
3. Are there toys that require the child to be an active rather than passive participant?
Researchers have found that stimulating playthings are more important for cognitive development after age one than in earlier months. Availability of interesting and challenging play materials in children’s homes after the first year correlates with later IQ and school achievement and math. Play things start to become important at about six months of age, but elaborate and expensive toys are not necessarily the best. Let them manipulate, interact, and figure out what the object is. When there is only one ‘right way’ to play, opportunities for experimentation and new discovery are limited. Common household objects, tools, cooking utensils are fascinating for children.
As child grows we, as care taker can provide them 2 main types of toys or activities – 1. Indoor activities- a. using mostly hands- wooden puzzles, water play, sand play, beading etc. b. Constructive – plastic and wooden blocks, small play bricks etc. c. Imaginary play- dolls, doctor set, old clothes, cooking utensils (safe for children only), old purses, toy cars etc. d. Homemade toys- flashcards, domino, picture cards, charts, puppets, flannel sets for stories, picture puzzles etc.
2. Outdoor activities-1. Games for climbing, balancing, swinging, cycling, jungle gyms etc. 2. Small and big balls, old tyres, rings for throw, catch, kicking, pushing etc.3. Sand tray with many moulds, and house hold utensils.
For teen age and adolescent children, we need different criteria for games and activities. For this age generation electronics devices has become main entertainment source. Now we can see that video game, variety of TV channels, many different movies, and many new game apps on mobile phones has taken place of many traditional games and activities. We can find many educational, quality programs on these appliances. We have to accept this change, but surely control the use of these all electronic gadgets, by making rules and inculcating good, healthy habits in children, and by setting good example in front of children. We have to teach them that physical activities are also equally important in day to day life.

L.) Adult’s or care taker’s role in child’s play-

Many parents wonder about the best way to guide a child’s play, especially young children. Research confirms common sense- get down on the floor and get involved when you have time to be patient, and let the child be learner. Here are some guidelines-
1. Make sure that child is actively interested and involved.
2. If child is really busy in any play activity, adult should not disturb it by suggesting or interfering it.
3. If adults are too involved in a game, they should take supporters role, let children decide. If child asks then only provide help or guidance.
4. If there is any new activity or toy or game, initially show the use or rules to child first time.
5. Never provide expensive toys to child, just because he/she is asking for it.
6. Try to avoid scolding, or physical punishments for breaking the toy. Set rules about time and use of any toy, game or activity. Try playing family games together for some time, so they will also understand that together time spending is more fun than playing alone.
7. Give the child positive encouragement for active exploration and investigation which builds motor and sensory pathways. Childproof home for safety. Encourage attempts at new challenges.
8. Provide toys and games that encourage a variety of types of play which the child must create himself, praise and admire innovative uses of play construction or game materials.
9. Provide low open shelves where variety of toys, objects, and books are always accessible. Avoid boxes with jumbled toys.
10. Call attention to specific objects or aspects of environment, like leaves, birds etc. Get in the habit of linking language to sensory input. Language is the means by which the brain develops its ability to act as control center for thinking, learning and planning.
11. Playtime should be relaxed and pressure-free. Constructive play usually begins only after a child feels familiar and comfortable in setting. Activities should not be switched too often as long as the children are satisfied.
12. the best play materials suggest imaginative uses rather than being too literal- materials for building a ‘pretend’ house , for example, rather than ne already fitted out with perfect furniture and accessories, lengths of fabric rather than costumes , large empty boxes, etc. Fantasy play with others gets children to enlarge their mental frameworks, get outside their own minds, and practice using language.
13. Children use play to gain important feelings of mastery and control or deal with issues that may be troubling them. Adults should intervene only when necessary to preserve emotional or physical safety.
14. Rule- governed games are fun for adults and children and promote many kinds of learning, but they should not be substitute for exploratory and pretend play.
15. Children playing together often make up their ‘own’ rules which may seem incomprehensible to an adult. As long as the children are satisfied, adults should stand aside.
16. Dramatic play teaches social skills more effectively than any type of instruction.
17. Pretense activities (Imaginative intellectual play) are often used by a child to firm up new understanding about the world, good environment encourages child and respects the quality of child’s emerging thought.

M.) Conclusion-

We saw that how much play is important in each child’s life, no matter of his social-economic background. We can’t relate play only with expensive toys and games stuff. It is more of quality time, child’s interests, and caretaker’s creativity in providing variety of material to explore. Each play activity takes child in another level of learning, all type of learning and that is also with very enjoyable and interesting way. All children need their own play time from 5 months old baby to 18 years old young adult, whether it is active or passive play. And last but not least- play teaches child self-learning.
“The best training any parent can give a child is to train the child to train himself.”- A.P. Gouthey.
“You can’t teach a man anything, you can only help him find it within himself.”-Galileo Galilei. , http://www.rit.edu

Physically locked down yet emotionally Free!!

How, it is possible ?

Mental health and COVID-19

What are some of the experts saying

1.WHO – World Health Organization

As the coronavirus pandemic rapidly sweeps across the world, it is inducing a considerable degree of fear, worry and concern in the population at large and among certain groups in particular, such as older adults, care providers and people with underlying health conditions.

2.http://www.cdc.gov – center for disease control and prevention –

The outbreak of coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) may be stressful for people. Fear and anxiety about a disease can be overwhelming and cause strong emotions in adults and children. Find ways you and your family can reduce stress.

Stress during an infectious disease outbreak can include:

-Fear and worry about your own health and the health of your loved ones.
-Changes in sleep or eating patterns.
-Difficulty sleeping or concentrating.
-Worsening of chronic health problems.
-Worsening of mental health conditions.
-Increased use of alcohol, tobacco, or other drugs

3.BBC.com

-The corona virus pandemic could have a “profound” effect on people’s mental health – now and in the future, say psychiatrists and psychologists who are calling for urgent research.

As we can see from above few reports about COVID -19 and mental health, this outbreak/ Lockdown is taking control of our mind, body and for many, it has already become a survival threat.
Every human being, no matter in which part of the globe he/she resides, this tiny ( but not puny) COVID 19 virus has deeply affected his/her lifestyle and has made them change their old belief systems, rather forcibly. Alas! circumstances sometimes do have such a profound impact on human beings.

As many reports from various sources say, mental anguish has tormented people more than the actual virus.

  1. Many people are constantly worrying about their jobs, about their finances. They are anxious about the future, their relationships, about their freedom to socialize.
  2. COVID-19 outbreak is hampering our basic need to move around freely, to meet people easily without constraint and compulsion of mask or any covering. These things are making many of us feel lonely, sad.
  3. Many people are dwelling in the past and desire to have that life back again.
  4. Some people are struggling to hold on their current jobs, they are exhausted but still fighting to survive to run their families.
  5. Due to lockdown, everyone has locked at home either completely alone or with family members, actually with whom they are unable to cope. Relationship issues, physical and verbal abuse are at pick due to lockdown in some families.

We can add many other emotional, psychological, behavioral issues here, those are becoming more complicated in this testing period. Compare to Corona Virus Positive cases, these emotional imbalance cases are discovering in large number.

Dr Edward Bach has given us a wonderful self-healing system in 1936, which is still helping so many people to restore their balance, enhance their emotional immunity in a very natural way. It is a full-proof supportive system to use in this pandemic outbreak.

  As Dr Bach stated in his book Heal Thyself ; The fundamental concept of this system is according to the structure of the personality and the emotional constitution, the same illness can cause very different psychological symptoms in different individuals. It is the effect that needs treatment because they guide us to the real cause.

Dr Bach discovered total 38 flower remedies,each prepared from the flowers of wild plants, trees and bushes. They work by treating the individual, rather than the disease or its symptoms. Each remedy is for a different emotion, mood or personality and because they cover all states of mind, either individually or in combination, the remedies comprise a timeless system that will help everyone, no matter where they live or into which era they have been born. society and pace of life changes with time, but human natures and emotional outlook remains the same- for which the remedies are intended.

The 38 remedies are placed under the following 7 headings-

  1. For Fear
  2. For uncertainty
  3. For insufficient interest in present circumstances
  4. For Loneliness
  5. For those Over- sensitive to influence and ideas.
  6. For Despondency or Despair
  7. For Over-care for welfare for others.

The purpose of the remedies is to support the patient’s fight against illness by addressing the emotional factors like depression, anxiety and trauma that are thought to impede physical healing. They can also be used preventively, at times of outbreak of anxiety and stress, and particularly helpful for the many people who feel generally tired and unwell without a specific medical diagnosis.

It is important to note that they are not included as a substitute for medical treatment, rather they support to any other medicine or treatment person is taking.

These remedies can help to calm the emotional aspects of what this current pandemic have  brought to mankind. Let’s see some examples

  1. Mimulus – this remedy is from ” For Fear” group. This remedy is for fear from known casues, such as; illness, death, accidents, pain, the dark, cold, poverty, loss of friend or job, public speaking. Fear of the  corona virus, of becoming unwell, fear of the life changes COVID-19 causes, fear of job-loss, fear of financial difficulties – these are all common fears that we can identify, and as  Mimulus  is the remedy for known fears, it can be particularly helpful at this time.
  2. Gorse–  Gorse is the remedy from “For Those Who Suffer Uncertainty” group. Gorse is for extreme hopelessness and despair, for people who have given up the fight. They feel that there is no light at the end of the tunnel and lost all hope. They may believe that their illness is hereditary and therefore incurable. They feel condemned to pain and suffering and do not try to get better.

We will find out more about This Wonderful healing system in my coming articles…….

stay tuned here!

Anagha P. Atgur, Co-founder VitaMind Family Mental Wellness.

International Psychological Counselor, Psychotherapist, Bach Flower Remedy Registered Practitioner, London.